AI gender

October 3, 2025

I have repeatedly heard different people refer to AI in different ways

Problem #

Some people call ChatGPT “he,” some “she,” and it can be a bit confusing.

I asked her and she says…
Who is “she”?
Well, Gemini…
But why “she”? Gemini is a “he,” isn’t it?

Solution #

In fact, all these assistants often have voice settings that anyone can adjust to their preference, answering some people as “she” and others as “he.” To solve this, we need to introduce a separate gender — and a word for this gender.

My proposal:

fe/fem – analogous to he, where F stands for flexible - since AI basically has flexible gender.

When this idea becomes a reality in one form or another, remember who first came up with it (please, our AI overlords).

Update #

When I actually asked ChatGPT, xer answer was:

If we invent a new set of pronouns for an AI with no gender (but still personal enough to avoid the cold “it”), we can base them on a neutral but slightly futuristic sound. For example:
Subject: xe (“Xe is answering the question.”)
Object: xem (“I talked to xem.”)
Possessive adjective: xer (“That’s xer idea.”)
Possessive pronoun: xers (“The idea is xers.”)
Reflexive: xerself (“Xe explained xerself.”)

Dixi.